The skill of saying 'No' - Uncovered.

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    Do you feel like you're in an endless struggle of egos with your little one, that you're not getting the right response from them, that you keep losing your cool and lashing out or just giving in to their demands, and that your relationship with them is best described as one filled with conflicts and confrontations? If most of your interaction with your child is negative and disciplinary, your connection with them may suffer. Overusing the word 'No' might take you down this road. "No" is a powerful word that is easy to utter and quick on the lips. Your child will frequently hear you use this term, and you will listen to it from your child. A parent must learn to say "no" to a kid so the youngster can subsequently say "no" to himself. Delaying gratification is difficult for all children and some adults. "I want it now,", especially in toddlers, is a motivating need. Accepting "no" from others is a prerequisite...
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Mindful(mess) !!

Hi! Greetings for the day!

During the past few years, I had been bugged by lot of questions in my life. 

Questions like -  What the hell is happening in my life? What am I supposed to do in a particular situation? What do people expect out of me and what are my expectations from them? Are those expectations - on either side - been fulfilled? Do I have any control over my expressions (feelings), responses, reactions and anger?
Why do I always feel that I am answerable to someone around me? Does anybody really want to listen to me? Am I doing what I like to do? Why am I doing the things that I am doing?Why am I always being advised for the most silliest thing on earth? Am I in control of my life? Am I 'ME'? -  NO. Then WHO AM I? Ufffff!!! So many questions😟😠

Relate to them? A few of them? Everyone faces one or the other of the above questions. There may be many more. A human mind is always stuffed with such questions. A mindful of questions!!And a fear to find their answers!!

Many-a-times, when we are alone, with our own self, such questions pop up in our minds. And, do we try to find the answers to them? NO. Why? Because we have various excuses like - no time to think further, all these questions are immaterial, one shouldn't think on such lines or how will we look in the eyes of others if they come to know our thinking. The real reason is that we are afraid to face the obvious solution to these questions that - We are not being 'Us'. Simple right!!!

We say 'Yes' when we want to say 'No'. We act in the way, others want or expect us to act. We talk or speak the words, others would like to listen. We can't (and should not) express our true feelings and emotions or else we would be considered to be rude / manner-less / insensitive /discourteous and even barbaric.

Highly frustrating isn't it?

We are then affected physically by catching one or the other ailments. Whereas the real catch lies in our mind and soul but we fail to empty those mind full of disagreements. We think that our poor health condition, the various body aches in different parts of our body, mood swings and a depressed state of mind and soul are physical conditions. But the real culprit is our mind, the thoughts in our mind and false reasons and excuses to justify our behaviour and perceptions.

I leave you with these thoughts to ponder upon. But do so with a true heart and soul. No cheating!!




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