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The skill of saying 'No' - Uncovered.

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    Do you feel like you're in an endless struggle of egos with your little one, that you're not getting the right response from them, that you keep losing your cool and lashing out or just giving in to their demands, and that your relationship with them is best described as one filled with conflicts and confrontations? If most of your interaction with your child is negative and disciplinary, your connection with them may suffer. Overusing the word 'No' might take you down this road. "No" is a powerful word that is easy to utter and quick on the lips. Your child will frequently hear you use this term, and you will listen to it from your child. A parent must learn to say "no" to a kid so the youngster can subsequently say "no" to himself. Delaying gratification is difficult for all children and some adults. "I want it now,", especially in toddlers, is a motivating need. Accepting "no" from others is a prerequisite...
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Have you lost your ‘Me’ in becoming a ‘We’?

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  Classic relationship situation:  You kick start feeling like the best version of yourself you've ever been. Before you know it, you're rummaging around in the relationship for a relic of the person you were when you fell in love. "Did I place that individual somewhere? What happened to "Me"? And how did I get engulfed by the "We" that you and I have become? And, by the way, where did you go? I haven't seen that individual in quite some time!" The challenge is, how can you be in a relationship without losing yourself; how can you be a member of a ‘We’ without losing your ‘Me’?   Being in a relationship is difficult since it allows for two distinct experiences. On the one hand, it will enable two people to be encouraged by their partner's respect and affection. Such collaboration benefits both parties, allowing them to bloom and progress as individuals.   On the other hand, people may enter a relationship with the expectation that...
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Are we really listening?

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  I was window shopping in a mall the other day when I noticed a group of friends having a good time. Suddenly, one of them asked the others if they were paying attention to what she was saying. ‘We heard you.’ was the immediate response. The apparent reaction of the girl was that they had not listened to what she had stated. Because I had overheard this exchange, I wondered what the difference was between hearing and listening. Isn't it the same thing? This entire episode gave me food for thought, and I set out on a trip to figure out how listening differs from hearing someone. So, are you really listening ? Here's what I discovered, much to my surprise. I had always assumed that I was listening, but I recently found that I was only hearing. You know, fellas, there's a fine line between hearing and listening. When you hear someone, you don't have to make a conscious effort; your ears do the work. But when it comes to listening, the difficult challenge is to take ...
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