Hi all,
Having been away for quite some time, I've decided to
return. I've been forced to pause and reflect on how I'm evolving as a parent
because of a particular circumstance.
A question for everyone: Has anybody ever ripped to shreds
or scratched over rules in public places because they claim they're being
mocked or "Bullshit!"? Do not lecture us, as if we do not know how to
use it. We already know.'
Secondly, instead of continual nagging or shouting about it,
can't we use some new ways to inculcate discipline or the necessary etiquettes
in our homes? (Who listens to it in the first place...)
Also, when we grew older, did we dare to defy our parents?
Is listening to parents considered crap?
You must think that I've gone insane. However, TBH as a
worried parent, I'm afraid that we're taking on parental responsibilities a tad
bit far that our children don't actually need.
Recently, I've noticed a few modifications in the behaviour
of adolescent children. When it comes to making their own arrangements,
children tend to wait until the last minute to notify their parents of their
activities fearing a refusal. It is evident that the teens do not want to
socialize with their elders, but at the same time they do not want to have a
conversation with their parents. It's impossible for us as parents to enter
their room and order them to tidy it up or teach them etiquette and manners
since they're teenagers. There are those people who think they are 'Grown-ups
who know it all, or people who just want to have their own space' #Swerve.
It's becoming increasingly common for children to reach
adulthood early due to technological development (or even overdosing). At
a very young age, children are conscious of too many things (which we were not
when we were in teens or even as early adults). A lot of information has been
crammed into their heads too quickly. Just a few taps on their devices, and
they're ready to go!"
I've seen that not just teenagers, but even infants are
adept at using YouTube to discover their favourite videos. Isn't it difficult
for us, as parents, to keep up with all of this? As adults, should we be
expected to accept the present trend of early adolescence and the greater
degree of maturity and attitude that our children display?
Is it too much to ask of our adolescent children to enjoy a
pleasant rapo with us? Are they allowed to reject any of our plans or
recommendations outright on the pretext of 'Learn to say 'NO' when you do not
wish to say 'YES' #Basic ?
Is it OK for them to stomp on our feelings and grossly
insult us when we want to instil something positive in our children?
What's going on here?
After a lot of contemplation, a restless night, and a few
tears, I've come to the conclusion that I'm done being a parent. Yes, that's
correct. Gown-up Children don't want their parents, and they don't want their
parents to be their friends either. The sad truth of life is that these youngsters
only see their parents as "facilitators," and we should only be that
to them. Attempting to be loving, caring, and supporting parents is something
that no child wants us to do.
Teenagers expect us to match the mould of 'facilitators,'
and they have Google for everything else. Remember that we're merely
facilitators for as long as they need us #Adulting. We'll be left to fend for
ourselves when they're old enough to fly on their own.
Having lunch or supper with their parents is low-key for
them, as is going out with them, listening to them, following their ideas, and
so on. It's a pity for them when their peers learn about their excellent deeds.
They've become 'Rebels' because they've been impacted so
much by the outside world.
So guys, its time to #Woke and take a step back to let the
youngsters play with their newfound independence. Let them learn from their
mistakes and reassure them that we'll be there for them if Google goes down.
Our job as parents ends much sooner than planned, much like their early
adolescence. Feeling JOMO already on parenting?
It’s time for YOLO. Let's make plans for our future, free of
responsibilities, now that we don't have to worry for our children (smelling
sarcasm?). #ByeFelicia, They are in good
hands already #Sipmytea.
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