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The skill of saying 'No' - Uncovered.

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    Do you feel like you're in an endless struggle of egos with your little one, that you're not getting the right response from them, that you keep losing your cool and lashing out or just giving in to their demands, and that your relationship with them is best described as one filled with conflicts and confrontations? If most of your interaction with your child is negative and disciplinary, your connection with them may suffer. Overusing the word 'No' might take you down this road. "No" is a powerful word that is easy to utter and quick on the lips. Your child will frequently hear you use this term, and you will listen to it from your child. A parent must learn to say "no" to a kid so the youngster can subsequently say "no" to himself. Delaying gratification is difficult for all children and some adults. "I want it now,", especially in toddlers, is a motivating need. Accepting "no" from others is a prerequisite...

Grown - up children Vs. Grown - up parents.

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Hi all, Having been away for quite some time, I've decided to return. I've been forced to pause and reflect on how I'm evolving as a parent because of a particular circumstance.     A question for everyone: Has anybody ever ripped to shreds or scratched over rules in public places because they claim they're being mocked or "Bullshit!"? Do not lecture us, as if we do not know how to use it. We already know.' Secondly, instead of continual nagging or shouting about it, can't we use some new ways to inculcate discipline or the necessary etiquettes in our homes? (Who listens to it in the first place...) Also, when we grew older, did we dare to defy our parents? Is listening to parents considered crap? You must think that I've gone insane. However, TBH as a worried parent, I'm afraid that we're taking on parental responsibilities a tad bit far that our children don't actually need.   Recently, I've noticed a few modificatio...

Parental Control

Parental Control From a long time now, I have been finding a feature called ‘Parental Control’ on various social media platforms, websites and digital viewing channels. What is this ‘Parental Control’? Any guesses? Why guess? You know it right! Well according to our favorite Wikipedia, ‘Parental controls’ are features which may be included in digital television services, computer and video games, mobile devices and software that allow parents to restrict the access of content to their children. These controls were created to assist parents in their ability to restrict certain content view able by their children. This may be because of the content they deem inappropriate for their age, maturity level or feel is aimed more at an adult audience. Which is undoubtedly true. Parental controls fall into roughly four categories: • Content Filters, which limit access to age inappropriate content. • Usage Controls, which constrain the usage of these devices such as placing time-limits o...

On having frustrating thoughts or negativity.

So, you do face frustrating thoughts? Well, to tell you the truth, I too have them. I thought that by simply meditating or emptying my mind of these intermittent thoughts, will bring me relief. But then I realized  that thoughts don't leave you rather we have to leave the thoughts. Oh really it’s difficult to do so!! I wondered, then, that why are we surrounded by hurtful, annoying thoughts and situations frequently? Negativity has enclosed us tightly. And this negativity has forced us to inculcate a certain way of thinking. Has it become our habit to take things in a certain way? That is by being biased , prejudiced or having a defensive attitude towards any person or a situation!! Being presumptuous during conversations and then react (not respond) in any of them. This makes me ask myself and you – the reader, to introspect ourselves, mind fully, whether we are in possession of any of the above said attributes of behaviour? So what should we conclude from...

Mindful(mess) !!

Hi! Greetings for the day! During the past few years, I had been bugged by lot of questions in my life.  Questions like -  What the hell is happening in my life? What am I supposed to do in a particular situation? What do people expect out of me and what are my expectations from them? Are those expectations - on either side - been fulfilled? Do I have any control over my expressions (feelings), responses, reactions and anger? Why do I always feel that I am answerable to someone around me? Does anybody really want to listen to me? Am I doing what I like to do? Why am I doing the things that I am doing?Why am I always being advised for the most silliest thing on earth? Am I in control of my life? Am I ' ME '? -  NO . Then WHO AM I? Ufffff!!! So many questions๐Ÿ˜Ÿ๐Ÿ˜  Relate to them? A few of them? Everyone faces one or the other of the above questions. There may be many more. A human mind is always stuffed with such questions. A mindful of questions!! And a fea...

Hey! I'm back.

Hi! Hello! Hey! Namaste! Missed me? Nah!! No!! Not so much!! But hey, it's ok.๐Ÿ˜‰ Well, as for me I did miss you all and especially my writing. To tell you all the truth, I had been on a fun-cum-enriching vacation. I visited some unseen places with my family and we all had a rocking time. Also I ended up doing some life-enriching, personal development courses and feel quite light and enlightened.๐Ÿ˜‡ So, now that I have resumed writing, I may give you all a peace (piece) of my mind. That's all for today dear folks. Look out for more. Byeeee!!!!

A new chapter - Bhuj (Part 1)

Vacations are  mainly to relax and get away from the rut. We travel to see and try new things and experience a different way  of living . Vacationing in Bhuj was really fun and was always a sought-after break.   But waking up to the reality of spending our entire life in Bhuj, was something which we had never thought of. Leaving a land of dreams, aspirations, good quality life, opportunities and much more, had indeed brought our lives to a standstill. We, literally had no idea as to what we would do in this small, desolate and traditional town. The worst part was that we couldn't even raise our voices against such a decision as we had no say nor were we asked.  A verdict had been passed and we were supposed to adhere to it. There is a turning point in everyone's life, because every journey has it's end.  The  turning point,  in the process of growing up is, when you discover the core of strength within you that survives all hurt. It's al...

Vacations at Bhuj - 3

The most beautiful things are not associated with money; they are  memories  and moments.  Also one of the   best  ways to make yourself happy in the present is to recall happy times from the past.  My   memories  mean a lot to me, and I hold them close to my heart. The   memories   we make with our family, is everything. My Dada's home was a huge two-storeyed bungalow with a garden. It was situated on the main road. It had a Gulmohar tree, a Moringa (drumsticks) tree and some shrubs. It was named using the first few letters of their names.The house had many huge rooms and a lovely terrace. The main attraction of the hall was it's large swing, which we called 'Hichko'. The hichko was placed in such a way that a huge window opened in front of it. A person sitting on the hichko could spend hours and hours watching the world go by through the window. And my dadi or my dada would be found swinging on it passing leisurely ...

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